In your first paragraph after the quote, do you mean NOT a dealbreaker?
What you do is completely dependent on you. If her contact with this person in the sophisticated European country is it for you, then you have your answer.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss