Tomorrow he'll have moved out a year ago. We don't have phone conversations. We rarely text or email and if so it is all business. I see him about once or twice a quarter. There is no pattern to when he tries to see the kids, but a couple days' notice is sometimes given, sometimes not. He'll take S13 to movies; S15 only goes with him if they're going to see grandma and if it's mandatory. H will stay at the house when I go out of town.
H lives about 10 miles away in a room in a guy's house from his former company. I don't know anything about it except one thing. I learned yesterday the homeowner owns a dog; H showed me a photo of it on his iphone. I know the name of the company H works for but nothing else about his new job, my questions about that were shut down. I was only told that the new job will svck.
I feel like the picture of Dorian Gray. I feel better and healthier and when I see H he looks crabbier and more miserable. He's not very nice. Told about our nephews wedding which is an informal event a few weeks from the evite distribution, "oh she must be pregnant, why else would they be getting married so soon?" followed by a loud guffaw. He's just like that almost every time I see him. He's not someone I would date. I feel sad because he's not who I thought he was and I don't think he's happy.
I'll be happier when this negotiating stuff is behind me.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
