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[Ambivalent]

I am more driven by emotions. I tend to rely on others for a sense of safety and sense of belonging. I feel I would be happy with someone that would nurture me, day in and day out. Someone that would hold my hand and take care of me and just be there for me and spend time with me

This sounds like dependency.
There will be times when we need support, but nurturing day in and day out? This can be suffocating and is relying on someone to meet needs that you can meet!

who will make me feel special and include me.

Nobody can make you feel special , or make you feel anything. They may reinforce feelings you already have, or fears, insecurities that are within. This is something you may wish to explore.

That I can laugh with and share my everyday life with.

Now this is something that can be achieved, but be more specific. Setting time aside to discuss the day is important to any relationship. Laughing with someone is very healthy, perhaps comedy clubs, or schedule time to have a super soaker war, laser tag, learn something fun?

. I want him to be affectionate, and compassionate and I would like him to care about and consider my well-being. He tends to not take notice of what my core needs are, although I have tried telling him. He is more looking for freedom and independance and

What is the exact type of affection you desire? Have you said I would like...xyz, and then let it go? I'm feeling I want a hug, I want a kiss? I'm feeling randy, I want to make love or give you a ....? Are you expecting him to read your desires, needs, your mind? This is where you need to be specific! Men like to fix, remember? This is something that can be fixed!
For if you are vague and expect him to "know", you will always be disappointed. He will never feel he can win with you, and this will lead to him not trying. It leads to shutting down and frustration.

He is more looking for freedom and independance and the more I need/rely on him, the more he resents me. How do we get past that???

What type of freedom? What type of independence? What do they look like to him? How does he define this?

I was reading about how some men, after connecting and being intimate need to have alone time. They need to get some distance. It isn't about the woman, it is just how they are wired. When they have their down time, this is when the woman should take the opportunity to do something with friends, pamper themselves, or do something that their men don't like to do.

...compassionate and I would like him to care about and consider my well-being...

What leads you to believe that he doesn't feel compassion for you? Why do you feel he is not considering your well-being?

What are you thinking about when you say he longs for independence? How can you ask what he wants? What can you do to meet his needs here?
What is the space he needs? Why do you feel the need to cling tighter?

When you say you want to be " taken care of ", it sounds like you want a daddy. Was your father there for you? Did he neglect or stay emotionally distant? Was he and enabler? Did he give you everything you wanted? Did he shower you with love, or did he withhold it?

It seems as if you are looking to another to make you whole. That you are looking for happiness in another, rather than seeking happiness from within and sharing it with another.

Resentment comes when one feels dismissed, not heard. When they think they have accommodated and not gotten what they need. When they stuff down what should be spoken to avoid conflict or fear expressing anger.

When this happens it is difficult for the one resenting to feel empathy for the other. They are overwhelmed with the feeling of resentment . They do not feel validated.

This can lead to withdrawal or behavior that is covert and damaging.