I guess it is a good thing that he is opening up to me.. he certainly is doing that! lol. On the other hand I feel just awful that he has a laundry list of things he felt resentful of about me, things that I didn't know about for years. I am starting to feel guilt and shame for having made someone else feel like that for years.

What I intend on doing is living day to day and being the best person that I can be, as a wife and mother. We can try to address some of these resentment issues over counseling. For some reason I am feeling scared.

Scared that he has these feelings.

Scared that for 10 years he was unable to communicate with me to let me know his feelings.

Scared that it will happen again in 5 years, he will hate me again for something I didn't know about.

His counselor gave him some homework to come up with some rules for himself so that this will never happen again, him coming to this point with his feelings.

M: 8 yrs T:14
Twins:7 S:5
BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013
Mar/Apr/May: MC
June: "living in limbo"
Sept 12: H moves out
Oct 20: reconciling
Jan-Feb 2014:MC
Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.