my wife left, but still lives with me

[tough spot]

Wife caught me crying last night! Not something someone generally 'catches' another person doing. So far I had been pretty good with the pleasantries and the 'why, no, nothing is wrong look on my face'.

She asked what was going on and i said 'this was pretty stressful' to which she agreed. she pushed for more, and right or wrong i stated 'the stuff i have been reading says i shouldn't bring up R talk. I can certainly talk R talk but only if you bring it up'.

We left it at that. It is amazing to me how what i perceive as her being cold that she can be. She must have walls built up from our 'not so good' marriage a mile high. Sigh, this will continually be difficult. But i am still reading, still db'ing. Good luck to all the others in my boat!