Not even a "how's it going?" Ugggggg. Ask his dad!!
I don't want to respond.
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
I know how you feel...but you have to consider the source and ask God to help them. They don't have a clue.
I would respond back a bit later and say "Happy Holidays! S14's size is ..." and hit the send button.
There's no need to lower yourself to their level. Show them the strong woman that you are.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Why oh why do you always need to be the voice of reason making me better Job?? Lol. I'd be an angry b1tch if it weren't for you my friend
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
WR, You are by far the better person in this and the only way that they will learn is by your example. I know you don't want to respond to her text message, but keep in mind, she is asking for sizes for your son.
The words Happy Holidays is just a greeting, nothing more. It will remind her of the season even if she's p@ssed at you because of the hearing.
Oh, no, you wouldn't be an angry b@tch. It's not in your make up to be that way. You are far kinder and more compassionate than I will ever be.
Wait a while and text her back. You can be kind, but not overly kind when it comes to others. Lead by example and eventually the village will get the message loud and clear.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I sent a Hi SIL S14's sizes are.......Merry Christmas. Her response. Thanks. Merry Christmas.
You're very kind Job......I'm working on myself.....it's a long road though. I do think you underestimate the amount of compassion you contain my friend, you're still here, guiding us newbies through hell. You don't have to but you do....it makes you an amazing person!
H is REALLY angry....I noticed that he removed all photos of my existence (except a couple of the four of us) from FB. I'm in real trouble now:) I did post the professional photos of me and me and my boys and the boys, that we had done last week, I'm sure that didn't help soften the blow. I also noticed he messaged S14 sat night. Very cold
Hi S14 how are you? Good Watching a movie with Nonna (Italian for grandmother) Did you get my Christmas list? Yes, thank you. What are you watching? It's a wonderful life Oh Ok sorry have a good night
Really???? your son whom you haven't seen in a few weeks and barely messaged with and this is it??
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
I smiled at this because H was truly, genuinely bitch-slapped to cold reality when S14 innocently told him that he was watching It's a Wonderful Life with Nonna because H's life isn't wonderful at all! LOL. H shut down the communication with S14 very quickly and H slinked off with his tail between his legs!
Too funny! And the best part? It didn't come from you at all. thumbs up to your S14
Well, what can I do about that? Nothing. Absolutely nothing.
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
WR, There's nothing you can do to make your h's life better. He's the only one that can do that. It's a Wonderful Life is an all time classic and when your son told his father what he was watching, it brought back some memories that he didn't want to deal with.
I'm glad you sent the text to SIL and wished her a Merry Christmas. By doing so, it shows that you are a compassionate woman who still wishes the best for all.
As for your h taking your photos off FB, this is very typical behavior...don't worry about it. He's having a very bad temper tantrum and eventually, those photos may show up again. He's lashing out and knows you are checking his FB page and this is the only way that he can hurt you right now. Leave it be. He'll get over it in time and if he doesn't...shame on him.
Enjoy your week. Be kind to yourself and take some time to pamper yourself as well. You've earned it!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I know that many of us lament how our partner's family "treat" us when a break up like this happens. And while I am not saying this is the case in every case, often family members do not know what to say.
I have a very large extended family and have seen both sides - the family memeber beign the LBS and the family member being the walk away. It is truly difficult to know sometimes what to do or what to say. You know that your family member is being a twit, but can't really say that. It is a tough situation, as well. Even now, after experiencing this, it is difficult to know what to say or do, expecially if a person was not particularly close to me.
Yes, it hurts. But try not to take it too personally. You also do not know what he is telling his family. Trust me, it ain't the truth.
Job, i can see that......we watch christmas movies as a family every year (watched another one with the boys last night) so I'm sure it did bring back memories for him. S19 said he thinks H has a TV now he can watch his own Christmas movies.
The company I'm working with is having a Christmas party at a fancy hotel downtown on Thursday night.....I haven't been to my own company christmas party in at least 15 years so I'm excited. There's a secret santa gift exchange, $20 max, so I've got a cake plate and I plan on making an eggnog bundt cake as a kinda gag gift.
Thank you Portia. This particular SIL was my friend and did not like what her brother was doing and then something happened, not sure what actually, and she just became distant and started unfriending me off of different social media. I've never asked and never message her. What REALLY upsets me is last night S19 was talking to the step-daughter of another SIL (H has three older sisters) and she mentioned that they would be going to SIL #1's house and not SIL #2 (the one that messaged me) S14 pops up....why would we go there? SIL #1 doesn't even like us (hit to the gut for me) It's because SIL #1 deleted me AND the boys off of FB so now S14 thinks his aunt doesn't like him. I said not to worry about what SIL #1 did and I'm sure she likes you. I asked S19 why the step-daughter thought that and something about the step-daughter wasn't invited to christmas at SIL #2's house so SIL #1 decided to have her own and now H is going there.......I said to S19 DO NOT get involved. End the conversation now and do not ask your dad or anyone else. Just get in the truck after Mass on Christmas Eve and go wherever you go. UGGGGG THIS is seriously the bu11shit that happens in their family. Stuff we've dealt with every year!
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
