Here's a light bop on your head. It came across as a form of "strategy" to get X, Y reaction from your W. How's that working for you so far?
You can be polite without being cold or coming across as a "nice guy." A 'nice guy' would bend over backwards to cater to the W and whatever she requests of/from him.
The actions above will leave the distinct impression to W that you are "angry about something." That will most probably be how she viewed it.
Get a grip on your emotions as they are certainly driving your actions.
