My main problem is im never getting the whole story, bits and fragments at best, and usually well AFTER the fact.
I've given my son chores, times he must be home, curfew, and when he doesn't follow thru, he takes off for mom's. Its such a fine line between parenting and enabling almost just so you can stay in the game.
I've asked him if he's happy with his life right now, he says no. I ask him if he wants to work at Mickey D's. Cause he's heading in the right direction. He's been conditioned over the years to blow me off, say all the right things, then go behind my back. He's been in legal trouble 2x that I know of, he snuck out of his moms house and got in a fender bender at 3:30am.
The other time he spent the night at a friends house, and they all broke into a house so they could smoke and "have fun". They got caught and have 4 charges pending.
As far as the "brother" thing, he's my step brother from my mom's third, yes 3rd, marriage. My son has never met him, and we're not close in the slightest. I did make my son watch like 3 hours straight for a tv show that has youth offenders going to a prison to be "Scared Straight". It worked, for about 3 days. I've also scheduled him for 2 counseling appts. he didn't show up for either.
He's just tuned me out completely. I get up make breakfast, he hardly eats. Dinner, the same. He's lost a lot of weight. He just doesn't see it. All his friends are the same.
Like I said before I don't want to abandon him. Not really sure what to do. I guess once I get in steady with my new job, some insurance will give me some options. My wife has him covered right now, and I asked her to look into some options, but never heard from her again about it. I've tried calling to discuss some options, but she says she isn't getting them.
I know 25MLC said she has some real regrets about how the kids were handled thru her husbands time. Maybe I just need a huge 2x4 to the head. Bring it on, cause again, what im doing isn't working. But with everything going on im at a loss for real options.
