I believe we are imperfect people who err. I would be willing to forgive W but with the pattern exhibited so far in our M, I would want her to make changes in her life as I am doing in mine.

If she were unwilling to make changes which would lower the odds of this stuff happening again, then I would probably consider that a deal breaker.

Is this fair?

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Me: 37 W: 37
M: 11
D:5 S:2
IDLYA, W removed rings, BD 07/13
EA/Fantasy (PA?) confirmed 12/13
W moved out 05/14