I think you first have to decide, Is the contact she's having with this person a dealbreaker for you?
It's a bit like being married to someone whose alcohol consumption is a problem for you but it isn't for them. You get to decide what's a problem for you.
The words of Another Stander from a different person's thread seem to be ringing in my ears. To paraphrase, he said that the M ended at BD in the eyes of the WAS. So in one sense, it justifies her actions at least since BD. Knowing that this was happening for at least several months prior to BD, however, gives me feelings of anger and frustration.
Labug - to answer your question... if M restoration were to take place, then it would be a deal breaker for me to "share" her with OM, even if this thing is purely E and not P. I don't mind male friends, but they shouldn't tuck W in with a text a night, send bottles of wine, and deny that communication is happening. These are EA signs, am I right?
If the "deal breaker" question is, "Does this mean the M is over for me as well?" then I am not certain but it will definitely make the whole idea of dropping the rope a lot easier.
Which way is "deal breaker" used in this context?
_________________________ Me: 37 W: 37 M: 11 D:5 S:2 IDLYA, W removed rings, BD 07/13 EA/Fantasy (PA?) confirmed 12/13 W moved out 05/14
