Is the stuff she's grabbing the last of what she has remaining?

Do you feel like she's attempting to make her final break soon?

Are you expecting papers soon, or is that you in your frame of mind thinking "this is it" soon?

What are you thinking my friend?

I cant remember you saying that either of you have even brought up the D word yet? Have you asked, do you need to ask, even for yourself? What answers to you need to have right now?

At this point, your floating, are you ok with where your at? do you need more answers right now? Sometimes we do, but understand its never the answer we're really hoping for, but its also something we need. I think by some of your comments you've lost that hope.

Do you need to have that final answer, one way or the other, to be able to really grieve and move on? Can you, are you willing to give it more time, for the sake of saying you gave it everything you could? Is that something that you need to do for yourself?

Do you feel like a failure? Are you afraid because this is happening a second time, that possibly your the problem in some strange way? Are you afraid to put your cards on the table again?

I really don't think the text was that bad of an idea to be honest, it was something YOU needed to do for yourself at the time. Its how you were feeling, own up to it. Maybe at 3am, the timing of it could have been better, but hey the idea wasn't bad, just the execution a tad.

I'm a bit curios about one thing thou, 25MLC, gave you some advice to maybe chase a little bit. You were very limited in that attempt, do you feel like it wouldn't get you anywhere, did you feel it would be pointless, did you feel it would make things worse? Is it that you've already made up your mind to the outcome, and are just trying to delay the process in some way?

Sorry buddy, I just threw a lot at you. The questions above are more for you to answer for yourself. Maybe getting your emotions out, here, can help. But if you want to hold on to those answers, I totally understand. You don't seem to journal here as much as you used to, and that's ok, I hope your doing it somewhere thou. Maybe holding onto it all, its why we've both failed at the full detachment, heck I dunno. I know I rarely, if at all post on my own thread anymore myself.