Mine is hiding his behaviors...But he is definitely trying on new personas. He has a magnetic earring, using Viagra and his profile said he likes dancing! Yup, from the guy who never danced!
The dancing kills me, for I have always LOVED dance...
I have to say, back in my early to middle twenties, I too tried on the swearing persona. I wanted to use "those" words in an intimate setting to excite my H. They did not come easily for me. I had to use the vacuum and yell them out loud until I felt comfortable with them.
Picture a 23 year old vacuuming and screaming fvck, c-nt, p---y!
I must have looked ridiculous if not hilarious. I do not use those words in my everyday interaction, it was an experiment.
I get their need to try on someone new, especially if they have always accommodated , or perceive they have accommodated.
This is actually a time where we too can try on or out something we've wanted to try...legal and healthy, but seek out ourselves. For the more we learn about ourselves through them and digging within, the stronger WE will be in either reconciliation or new friendships.
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
