It's still football season-when's my bye week?

[Mtnman]

It's been a wild 10 days. W insisted on D talk a week ago last Friday evening. So we did. It was very business like and only had a few instances of emotions. I explained that I would not help prepare or research to help her prepare for this but I would answer questions and provide information as requested.

She initially wanted me to stay in the house and for her to pay half the mortgage and boys medical expenses. When I ran the numbers it became apparent to her that she couldn't do that. We left agreeing to put the house on the market.

By Tuesday she talked to MIL who hit the roof. Out house is on family property and she doesn't want it sold. So, I explained to W that I would transfer my ownership to MIL and walk away for half of the equity in the home.

This past Friday W texted that MIL would be contacting me to discuss the terms. She did within minutes. I went over to MILs house to discuss. It did not go well. Instead of discussing finances she decided to preach to me about how there had to be something wrong with me to cause W to run and start acting out. I was able to get through it for a while, but eventually had listened to enough. I ended up blistering her. No foul language but it was made crystal clear to her that I would not accept responsibilities for Ws actions.

MIL is/was/will continue to be the persecutor of my W. She is a cold, uncaring person. So, this was a long time coming. W assumed I would back down to MIL just like everyone else in her family. I did not.

W came up Friday, and we spent all day Saturday together. She never mentioned anything about D or my MIL talk. I expect Ws brother and I will eventually be discussing the terms of my buyout.

I'm at peace with it all. In some ways it would be a blessing to have a D. MIL helping W pay for this house will be a huge mistake. MIL will make W feel obligated to her and continue to be both a persecutor and now rescuer for her. I'm not real sure how long it will last but it will be like sitting on a bomb.

I'm continuing to treat W the same but made it very clear I would be moving on if/when D is final. Not that I don't want her. Not that I would close the door on taking her back.