Look what the cat dragged in! (TL) - Act 2

[tigerlily78]

Well, I tried to stand down and that worked for all of like 15 minutes.

I made him lunch, brought it to him. Asked if I could have a pillow back that he brought to his den the other day (I asked via a message 2 or 3 days ago, figured he forgot). He got super pissy about it. I explained that I asked before and was just reminding.

He threw the pillows out of his den (more than the one I asked for) and then knocked part of his lunch off the plate. (That was my fault too somehow). I told him I was sorry he messed up his lunch, and I didn't mean that he had to give me the pillow IMMEDIATELY, just to let him know I wanted it back... that the pillows seem to help me sleep a little better.

He ranted and complained some more. I told him I was sorry he was in a bad mood, but I didn't feel like I was actually the cause of the mood or his unhappiness.

He went and took a shower and then left, even though he knew I needed the car today to take son to a camping thing. He sent me a message after he left that said he "won't accept being in the house with me bitching at him as much as I have been."

I pointed out that he wasn't punishing me by leaving, today he was letting down his son and that it wasn't too late for him to turn the car around and do right by our son. I sent several other messages that were not nice, just honest. That the difference between him being at OW's place and home, is that he treats her nicer than he treats us, and she doesn't have the burden to know or accept the reasons she has to be upset with him. I do.

Also followed up on a previous comment he made weeks ago that if "things work out with OW, that he will really believe in God." I said "God" is love and compassion, not infatuation and lust and lies and selfishness and abandonment and neglect... Any God worth believing in would never endorse or divine the decisions and behaviors you and OW have chosen. That I don't know how he can even stand to be with and sleep with the woman who helped him trick himself into thinking throwing his life and his family away would make him happier. That all being with her has done is complicate life and distract him from confronting what's really bothering him.

Too much truth. Probably so. If he wants to pack his bags tomorrow, then I will be quiet and get out of the way. But I think as much as he wants to run away, he doesn't want to live with her. And there is a reason for that.