SM, you say that you didn't care one whit how your W responded to your sexual banter . . . but that's easy to say when she responded the way you wanted her to. Do you honestly think there would be no sting had she rejected you? I'm not saying I know the answer, I'm just asking you to imagine that happening and how you would really feel.
As for the light touch getting shot down by some folks here, if I recall correctly, that was because she had very clearly requested that you not touch her.
You have mentioned a number of times that in your culture, D is not an option. This, along with your continued acceptance of her out in the open affair, is making her very comfortable, since she is juggling two men with apparent impunity. If you are OK with this, that's definitely your choice.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
