I will admit to feeling a little out of place here in MLC... Bear with me. No 2x4s coming. Just observations and maybe some info others might be able to use.
I read this thread from the beginning...
My W and had entered into alternative lifestyle activities. While it was not swinging, it was Dom/sub, it was still something I agreed to in order to try and save our M. What I found is that it did not achieve what I had hoped and instead created this massive rift between us. What was at one time a beautiful thing (in a relationship a long time ago) evolved into a disastrous turn. It got even worse when my W wanted to have an open marriage.
What I have learned is that bringing in other people into a relationship is not a good thing. I found that fantasy rarely turns out as awesome as you think it might.
This is his teenaged attempt at showing me he was being a good boy.
I disagree. You confronted him. You made an accusation. I believe he was trying to put your mind at ease a little bit. You telling him that it was unnecessary because you believed him contradicts your words from the night before. Not a slam... just an observation.
From reading your last couple posts, it does seem that your H is stuck. He is angry. He sounds frustrated. Speaking from my own experience, when i was in that type of position, it left me similarly angry and frustrated.
Keep the lines of communication open.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
