Of course I've thought of that. And I'm sure its quite true.

On the flip side, I could have the best financial situation in14 years because this is the first time shes worked in our entire relationship.

As a man, my priority right niw is to stop te bleeding financially. That has been my biggest stress point from before BD, and even now. It bothers me more than her actions, sadly. If I was at least breaking even I could do something.

I don't know, maybe that's crazy thinking. But I just think the best thing for me and for D3 right now is for W to stay and help with her new found income.

What would be the disadvantage of that? If I can detach fully and not be bothered by her BS, is it a bad idea? Obviously not for ever, but I'm thinking more like 3 to 6 months.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017