Thank you all. I have worked things out for next three weeks to be home with s in evenings. I am hoping to have an opportunity to talk to FIL over Christmas.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15