Finding nuggets of gold on this Great Big Hill

[BrightFuture]

Pud, I don’t know if I want to give you 2x4. It seems like you needed this conversation. Here is my observation from what you described. You H probably needed to hear your apology for your past mistakes again. It probably made a bit of a difference. He is clearly not ready to make a final decision. He is confused, he uses your son as a justification for him to not make any moves right now. I thought it was very positive that he wanted to convince you that he was going to work.

Now, here are some 2x4s. When I spoke with my DB coach last year and described some of the things I did, like saying that I missed H, he asked me to pinpoint the exact time when it happened last. He said that the clock of DBing is set to zero from that time. So, every time you have some kind of R talk, you set yourself back in DB process. I’m thinking now that my H was not 100% sure what he was doing with our M last year, and I think that my pursuing helped him to make a final decision. So, you need to be extremely careful with these R talks right now. It seems to me that your H is going though this period when he trying to figure out his next step. Even a little push from you could change your sitch. Unless you are ready for that… This is just my opinion, and I want to put a disclaimer here that I’m a very fragile state of mind right now and might not see things clearly. The only thing I can tell you for sure is that after yesterday’s conversion you need to sit quite for a while, evaluate, and also give him some space too.