It's just a moment; This time will pass

[Whiterose]

That my lawyer would suck; judge would believe H; I'd get told too bad so sad about purchasing my home. ....I was wrong:) still have a long road but this one step, according to my L, was really good.

I'm guessing this pushed H further into the tunnel. He's probably pi$$ed and I'm waiting for the fall out from that. We didn't even get to furniture, or tools, so we'll see.

OMG he was so pi$$ed when he left. Dang it I should have said bye to H's L and H. Rude of me

[LoisB]

In my honest opinion...maybe he will get pushed further into the tunnel, but there's also a 50/50 chance, this experience will force him to face reality. I think things like this, sometimes, act as an ice cold splash of water that shakes you into reality.

What I know for SURE is YOU will be OK!!

[Whiterose]

maybe this will be that splash of water but he looked, and by looked I mean it felt to me, like the day he left.....that caged animal desperate for out. When my L said "wow he was desperate to get out he even gave up on your rrsp's" it reaffirmed that I was seeing what I was seeing.

I think yesterday made me, for the first time, feel like I may just be ok

[job]

WR,
Well done. I'm glad that hearing went well and you will now begin to see some support money. Maybe your h will begin to face the consequences of his actions. They never think about the snowball effect.

Now, take today to prop your feet up and breathe! You've had a lot of stress on you and now you need to focus on your sons and the holidays.

[Ambivalent]

Whiterose you are the momma bear! When it comes to the issues your boys have, they need a strong advocate and you were the best!

I'm so sorry that it has come to all of this, you deserve so much better, more than what he is and may be.

What strength and grace you demonstrated, you are a great example of NOT being a doormat!

Perhaps you should send a Grinch Christmas tree to him? Heh heh heh , for obviously even Cyndy Lou Who could not melt his heart.

Sending hugs and an atta-girl. <3<3<3's

[Whiterose]

Thank you Job.......I think he's beginning to understand, now, that life may not be as rosy as he thought. He told his sister, when he left, that he KNEW I'd take him for everything but it would be better than being miserable for the rest of his life with me. Well, I truly pray, he can find happiness now.

Thank you so much Ambiv!! I just wanted to deck H's lawyer! He did not like me by the end and I 'm OK with that. I would answer questions, meant for my lawyer, I would call him on his errors and I would look at him square in the eye. When I saw H, with his fake cockiness and his dumba$$ lawyer I thought "REALLY, WR?!?!?! You're going to let these two boneheads make you afraid?!?!"

I made a grinch tree every year for H's desk AND one's he could give to the receptionists....never got paid for them. I should send one spray painted black!! LOL

Thank you for the support everyone:)

[BrightFuture]

Rose, great job standing up for yourself and your sons!

“Well, I truly pray, he can find happiness now.” – this is priceless. And you are going to be OK.

[Whiterose]

It sounds like I'm being bitter but it really made me upset to see H so lost and angry....he's so confused and it hurt me to see him like that. I really do pray he finds happiness. At night in my prayers I say a prayer of gratitude for him, gifting me with our boys, and ask God to give him blessings.....I want him to be happy after a lifetime of being so sad and angry. I just cannot allow him to take me and the boys into the pit with him-it's my job to make sure the cycle is broken.

Side funny note....after court yesterday I messaged my tenant, he works in the same area, and I said I need a coffee and a shoulder....he met me at a local coffee shop. He's a FF and had to bring his driver with him, as they're on shift, and according to T his driver tried pointing me out to T (check that one out) and T said "speak of the devil!" He's a 27 year old.....that made my day!! LOL it's the little things, eh:)

[job]

WR,
You don't sound bitter at all. You have compassion and yes, it does hurt to see them like that, confused, lonely and lost. You are doing the right thing asking God to give him blessings and help him to heal. It's the only thing that you or anyone else can do for him right now.

I do hope that you are enjoying your weekend and the stress is slowly slipping away. BTW, did you get your lock fixed? How are the boys doing? Everything set for the big day of Christmas?

[Whiterose]

Thank you Job.....I just wanted to make sure. Things can come across misunderstood in type, sometimes.

H talked to S19 yesterday, wanted to know what his hours were like in January, S answered 12 to maybe 20. That he has hurt his back. H answered that it was good not to work too many hours with school starting. I told S to talk carefully with his dad until this was all over. H's fishing again....didn't take long after the court date. S19 called S14 after I talked to him on Friday and S14's first words were "did dad take our house?" I wish S14 would say stuff like that to me so I can reassure him I'm doing what I can and it'll be alright.

Worked yesterday morning then taught my Tenant how to make tomato sauce and meatballs. We made a huge batch for him to take home and his wife and kids could have a few dinners. Lock is still needs to be fixed completely but it is working right now. Have a few christmas orders I need to get finished today. Housework. Need to finish off my christmas shopping and start wrapping. S19 doesn't work on the 24th now so we go to Mass at 5 and then H will pick up the boys for dinner with his side and bring them home later that night.