Suckerpunch (the process)

[planet]

To me if WAS claims that they are 'happy', most probably meant 'relieved'.

WAS: I am 'happy' after BD.
Translated as...
WAS: I am 'relieved' leaving an unhappy M.

[Fartiltre]

I just want to add that (and I still don’t want her to be unhappy) W showing feelings makes me more hopeful of R than when she doesn’t. Hopefulness might cause me to feel more happy!

[labug]

SP, I think we've all been through that sobering realization of the depths of the WAS' unhappiness.

I can truthfully say that early on, I didn't want my H to be happy. It took a lot of soul-searching, honesty, IC, digging, digging, digging to realize that we were both pretty unhappy in the M we had. I pasted a happy face on things but my unhappiness and anger came out in P/A ways then.

Which of course only made things worse.

So as I changed, I found I did want my H to be happy, even if it meant it was without me.

[MrCAS]

unlike W, I don't think I will let D know that I am going on dates or meeting new women, until I have settled into a long term relationship.

You just had to get a dig in there, didn't you?

SMH.

[swoop]

You're right, Cas. I didn't even realize it, but that was a dig. I need to be a bigger person, regardless of my feelings. Thanks for pointing out something that I need to work on....Acceptance of others choices.