Julie, 3 gave you some very solid things to think about.

Your job isn't to save your H or to hang around until he hits bottom. You're job is to take care of you and then take care of your kids. Always put the oxygen mask on your face first.

You can't say anything that will make him hear you. He's lost right now so waiting for him to get it is just not going to work. So get out of his way, make sure you and the kids are safe and let him live his life just the way he wants.

That's really all you can do.

Did you go to a meeting this week?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss