SM34's Post

[SM34]

If she makes the amount that she is supposed to every month going forward, I have a plan in place that will fix our situation in 3 months. She is aware of it and I all for it since we've talked about it before.

When her and I talk about it I do treat her with respect and ask her for her opinion as to how she would like to handle it, what she would like to contribute etc. And her response has been that she wants to contribute everything she makes because I've been stressed out for so long about our situation.

W can work together to pay down our debt and get to a place where there is spare money to do nive things again. Its kind of what I was hoping would happen a long time ago because I think is a huge part of our sitch. We hhaven't had money to do anything for so long that it made our lives boring.

I have worked to purge some of my personal bad habits, and I understand now how I rejected her sexually too many times. The final issue is the financial one and then I believe we've overcome all the problems that she had.

I know I've let this go om for too long, but this is acually why. I feel like she doesn't want to end our marriage (I could be wrong but I want to eliminate the negative financial sitch and see what happens first). But our marriage csnnot be better than it was unless we get a grip on our fnances and have some free money to enjoy life.

Does that make any sense?

So maybe I need to work on my emotional connection with her so that I'm ok with what she is doing (I'm almost there I think) and GAL and wait for financial sitch to have time to work itself out. Then there are no love busters and at that point if she's not rethinking then ill be ready and able to walk without a massive debt and the burden of the family.

Am I rambling advinva? Does that make any sense? I've been following your thread and think its awesome that you are taking charge of your budget!! Good for you girl!