Originally Posted By: NeedingMore
How do you decide when to talk about important issues? I feel like I can't talk to my BF about my feelings at all. That is what I have a hard time dealing with. Like as long as I act like everything is OK and his actions aren't hurtful, we are good. And we are in a holding pattern that is torture. I also need that crystal ball...just for some relief of my mind.


As tough as this is, would you rather get answers but have them be negative ones? You might have to suck up your own feelings for a good long while unfortunately. If things are good when you act like everything is ok... then keep acting like everything is ok. Holding patterns are way better than having nothing right?

And to answer the moving question, no, even if he came back I wouldn't move. I've wrestled w/ this possibility many times. I even agreed to move earlier in DBing only to have him leave me again shortly thereafter. Luckily that move didn't happen and it was a good reminder that things are too unreliable to make that kind of change right now.


BD: Aug 2012
Separated since May 2013
S born Aug 2013
Aug 2013 H agrees to consider 'baby steps toward working things out'
H is/was actively seeing someone?