That is good news about seeing your ex on match.com - perhaps her heart will fill with something other than bitterness now, and so improve your relationship with her as a byproduct.
Yes, you have to follow a court order. I think it is good to ask 100% of the time for 100% of what you want though (from EE); does the order apply to her also? Is she playing clean in a legal sense?
Can she accept that you love your son also?
I am just reading a book called Crucial Conversation Tools for Talking... - this might be useful to you also. It might be useful to wait until she has some luck on match before tackling a difficult conversation with her -
Good luck - Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
