not as scared or confused. . still hopeful (II)

[juliegayle]

Thanks Ad I do agree re: the value of Labugs advice. It is always what I need to hear at the right time.

That is why I am hoping she or others with experience may chime in. I realize this is something I will probably need off board advice as well.

I have been working very hard to not be controlling with H and it is easy to do because we barely speak. I have also been doing better at not allowing my emotions to be controlled by his actions.

With regards to his drinking he is in a downward spiral. Drinking every night. Stopping to get a beer on way home from work (I can smell it). Stumbling around in middle of night. Don't know if OW is a drinker but he has another new female friend that often invites him out drinking.

I have stepped back and almost hope something will happen to make him hit rock bottom. EXCEPT I am afraid it will happen while he is alone with S. The other night I came home and found H asleep/passed out with a beer next to him. Timer on microwave going off and food burning in oven. He didn't wake up for another hour.

I have to go to work and leave H aline with S. What can I say and how do I say it in a way he might actually listen and not see ut as more of the same controlling and complaining?