He has increased his social drinking and it seems to be a major outlet for him. This summer he drank excessively...and daily. If you would have asked me the, I would have said it affected me greatly-scared me. Now, it seems to be his focus when out socially.

I am unaffected by it. I don't try to control it. It forced me to read codependent no more and I've decided that he is in charge of his decisions and consequences-not me.

Me:33 H:35
M: 12 years
D-15 S-6
Bomb: 6-2013
OW: 11/2013
Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair
Kids and I moved back in 12/2013
H moved out 2/2014