SP, I think we've all been through that sobering realization of the depths of the WAS' unhappiness.

I can truthfully say that early on, I didn't want my H to be happy. It took a lot of soul-searching, honesty, IC, digging, digging, digging to realize that we were both pretty unhappy in the M we had. I pasted a happy face on things but my unhappiness and anger came out in P/A ways then.

Which of course only made things worse.

So as I changed, I found I did want my H to be happy, even if it meant it was without me.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss