She has the opportunity of having an amazing, loving marriage with me, I am a good person. Why she would choose separation & court action over that baffles me. I am would love to understand her reasons.
I think most LBSs think this way. But honestly, do you want to know her reasons? Do you think there is any chance you would agree with them? She obviously doesn't see the opportunity of having an amazing, loving marriage with you. She sees something else that makes separation preferable. It $ucks, but there is nothing you can do about it. You can't argue with her - words are not going to talk her out of this. So stop trying to figure out what she is thinking, and just work on you.
Fight, sorry that you find yourself here and experiencing what you are going through. I can certainly relate - have bee there (still am at points I think) myself.
You are getting great advice from folks here - even though it may seem counter intuitive. I know from experience it is sometimes tough to hear - and even harder to implement but it will help you get to a better place.
Stay strong!
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork
