When you decide, I think? When the point comes to accept that this will be the behaviour for ever (let's say) and can you accept the way you are currently dealing with it for the rest of your and your kids' lives?
I don't know when that point is or how it happens, so I would be interested to see the answers.
I think, at least for me, I would have to lose some of the love I feel for H and move towards indifference. But I think that gets easier with less contact everytime. Or when I see some behaviours haven't changed.
I can view him with caring, compassion and love- a sense of I hope it works out for you, but from a distance instead.
I honestly think it is different for everyone and the LC and GAL etc are designed to encourage this distance
