I have been reading other threads.

I need help to finally detach. I want to let go of whatever fear I am still holding on to.

Can you help me?

When does MLC stop being a crisis and just the way they are? When this first started h said he had left everything in the past- he wasn't angry at me and he has simply moved on. Does MLC really last this long? Do i ever start to just normalise relations wit him - whatever is happening- so T least we can alleviate some of this pressure off the kids? Off me?

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home