not as scared or confused. . still hopeful (II)

[bluesgal]

Julie- I can relate to your #1. To me, it feels like I've been abandoned. Like my H never had my back when I was not at my best and now here we are, standing by them through all this crap!

Labug is right-If the drinking affects you negatively, then it doesn't matter what label it has. Going to the meetings could give the peace of mind that you are not alone.

I feel for those with special needs children. I can see how you could totally devote your life to them and leave the marriage on the back burner without even realizing it. We have friends with a special needs son. Their marriage was in trouble for awhile, but they managed to recover and are better than ever.