I just caught up on your thread and I think you're doing great.

Your H's problems aren't about you, I hope you understand that. Yes, we all did things that pushed buttons but you didn't force hi to drink or hang out with OW, those are all choices he made to hide from whatever he's trying to hide from.

Keep strong with your boundaries.

I loved your post about how much better you are now! Keep reminding yourself of that.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss