Blues - I think that inviting your H is a good plan so long as you have no expectations. I dont ask H if he wants to join in on everything, but just the bigger stuff that I have planned. I ask once and then let it go. If H comes, great. If he does not, we still head out and have a great time. I would only invite your H if you fully intend to follow through with your plan (baring any emergencies or things beyond your control). You dont want to give H the impression that you are still living your life dependent on his actions.
