It's Not Over 'Till It's Over

[SemperFi00]

Fight, have been following your sitch and feel your pain. Been there and done that - making many mistakes along the way but still standing........

Support from this board and the wonderful vets taking time to provide guidance and thoughts is great! Tough to hear and internalize sometimes but very valuable.

Stay Strong!

Possibilities for the "reasons" she has for her feelings right now:

1) You are a poor H and she wants a D.

2) You are a great H and she wants a D.

3) You both have your faults and she wants a D.

4) She went crazy, or is having a MLC, or some PTSD, or an A, or a combination of these things, and she wants a D.

My W is questioning the faith that she partially led me to believe in, questioning the job/calling we invested our lives in, questioning the friends she has had for years because they are not enabling this, questioning the goodness of our M, questioning any ounce of love she might have for me...

My point is, it won't ever make sense completely. She is on a journey, which has forced you to realize you are on a journey. I'm saying this partially for myself, but all we can do is take this train ride of self-improvement and awareness, and give her space to take her own train ride. The ticket she buys might end up in Crazyville, or it might end up back in Marriageville. Guaranteed it will have many stops before the destination. I don't really want to be on that train until the engineer sobers up, ya know?

Very succinct S4tk. Great post!! Kicking myself over and over again to make sure that I remember this.........