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Originally Posted By: uRworthy
I just felt that his comment that Rh should be nothing but grateful that he returned and that she should have no issues sounded a bit disrespectful.


uR, if I understand this correctly, it was the IC who said ^^ that to H. rH's H was only relaying to her what his IC said like a helpful, bouncy puppy. Of course, it's perfectly natural that H was lapping up that shovel-full of BS. Now who is the real dumbass here?! The IC. I stared at that part in utter disbelief that the IC even, ever raised the notion that rH 'should' be dancing a jig that H is coming back home. Are you kidding me?! crazy

Honestly, I do not think H was intentionally disrespectful when he relayed the comment to rH. In fact, I'd bet H was feeling super pumped by it. Am I pretty close here, rH?


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It was ego-kibble feeding time big time for H when the IC offered up that comment. That's how I look at it from my vantage point.

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Originally Posted By: reachingHigher


He said he has been perplexed that I should question anything. He said that "counselors" of his have said that had I realized how very far he was GONE I should be nothing but overjoyed he came back!

IOW, I should've had NO issues this year!



Hey Wonka, he said the above in bold. His counselors are his mother and drinking buddies. I am just going by how it made RH feel, since she was the one hearing the words. Her feelings are valid, too. smile

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Were the counselors named? I thought it was an assumption.

Something just feels off here. Not that he should grovel, but that comment just came off a bit like fishing.

As if he wanted RH to build his ego, and tell him how awesome he is for coming back.

It still sounds like a juvenile mad that comment , not a emotionally stable adult. He still sounds "young" to me.


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Thanks job, I'll add "verify misunderstandings" to my list. And thank you for the prayers for the real estate exam. I am close...now just going over areas I am weak in.

Thanks you for the good discussion, uRw, Wonka and Ambiv.
I'll continue on my next thread, Sorting it All Out.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2413952#Post2413952


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