Reaching out for support and advice!!

[bluesgal]

My decisions have now been to move forward with my life. He complains that I NOW do the things he has wanted me to do for years. He thinks that since I'm doing them now, it's because all along I never wanted to do those things with HIM. Not true. I was in a slump. Unconscious in my marriage. Taking things for granted. Not getting my needs met by H, so just doing the status quo for so long.

I have decided that if the kids and I do something/go somewhere, I'll tell him he's free to come along if he'd like. If he comes along, fine. If not, we'll go anyway. Is this good DBing?