"I think it's more about not feeling vulnerable and not telling me anything personal. She put walls up a long time ago, it seems impenetrable, I don't think any bricks have come down."
Think of her detachment like a wall surrounding a castle. You batter at the wall and all it does is fortify it. You have to be malleable like water. Find little cracks in the wall. Make your way here and there. When you're "stopped" flow to another crack. Eventually the wall will come down. It took three years before I saw ANY cracks in my W.
"I also guess she is not used to hearing anything like that from me, so probably thinks there is a motive."
You're mindreading.
"I asked her to include my sister who just went through a breakup and my grandmother who is not doing well. That's all I was looking for I guess. Kinda surprised at the alien reaction I got."
You wanted to involve your family while she feels uncomfortable with being around you. It's understandable on her part why she doens't want your family around. She already feels uncomfortable and you asked her to be even more uncomfortable. Did you really think she would want your sister around who just broke up while she's going through her own breakup?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
