H woke me up when he came home and asked me if today was trash day. (One might have guessed from the fact that I put the trash and recycling and 7 bags of leaves at the curb last night, lol) I gave him the bill to pay at least 3 weeks ago. Turns out he didn't pay it. So he planned to pay it online this morning and he wanted ME to call their office and tell them we paid and make sure they took the trash. In my just awoken state I was a little short with him. "If you are just paying them now, you may as well just call in to the office and pay over the phone. Then the lady can immediately send a message to dispatch to have the trash picked up. Doesn't that make more sense than me making a call and telling them you paid it?" He was reluctant at first. He wanted me to call. I mentioned that I gave him the bill weeks ago, it shouldn't have come to this in the first place... That he should step up and just sort it out himself. I apologized for being kind of pissy about it, but I am tired and this was not a nice way to start my day.
I know my H HATES making these kinds of phone calls. But its a consequence of a choice, right? I'm neither his "wife" nor his "mom" ...why should he expect me to jump out of bed and help fix his mistake or ease his discomfort? :P
I thought he might be pissy after that, but he did end up coming home for lunch on the early side. Minimal contact most of the afternoon. I could tell he was busy working so I gave him lots of space.
I did need to run to the store to get something that son was supposed to bring to school tomorrow for a party. I told H about it yesterday, giving him the opportunity to go pick it up himself if he wanted to or remembered, but he hadn't. So this afternoon I messaged him: "I realize you are really busy right now with work stuff. Do you want me to run to the store to pick up that item for son's school tomorrow?" He said yes, come get the keys and some money.
He didn't plan to eat here tonight, so son and I ate without him even though he was still here when we ate. H came down later and grabbed a granola bar or something to take with him. Son and I were playing a card game at the table. He made a point to lean over and give son a hug from behind and patted him on the chest affectionately before he went. I like to see him making the extra effort with son.
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."
