Really awkward night with H. The kids and I had not seen H since Sunday at all. He made a few comments about the boys bring mommas boys. I did not say anything, but the kids do kind of each clingy to me when they don't see H for a bit and after I spend a bunch of time with them. H was wrestling with S4 and he stared crying and wanted me. S4 is my most sensitive guy. S3 is the complete opposite. H tried to get S4 to stop crying but he came to me anyway. I gave him a hug and told him he was fine. H immediately said " that is the exact opposite of what everyone says to do. You should not coddle him" in a very critizing tone.
I lost my cool and said "don't tell me what to do". It took me back to the past two years when h was super critical of everything that i did. It also hurts because i am working my butt off taking on the majority of the parenting responsibilties while he gets his space. And i know that i am a good mom. But i know my reaction was wrong and should not have snapped back. Any advice on what I should have said? Also, should I apologize or just leave it alone? I felt like the rest of the night was off after that.
