my wife left, but still lives with me

[tough spot]

I have just started with detaching and GAL. So i wasn't really referring to my 'success'...more so about other people's situations. Mentioning it because i thought it was a bit disheartening.

This is our first marriage, both of us, 20 years. I think i am past the anger/sense of hurt my wife's comments have made. I feel that she is numb from us drifting apart, going to counseling, getting better, drifting apart. She has built a wall and i see how the process of detaching and GAL'ing is really the only option. Show change, dont just talk about it.

If the pain i feel is an indicator of passion, i am certainly not lacking any of that. I brought up that subject of potentially it being better for us to separate because sometimes i think it is difficult to differentiate between the pain of losing someone's love versus the pain of losing that person to another/all the difficulties that come with divorce. Make a twisted sense?

I felt her growing distant and repeatedly asked, truly asked and was willing to listen, to why. She kept telling me 'nothing really'. Perhaps she didn't believe I truly wanted to know. I don't know, i can't talk to her about it