Coming Back To Life

[Pudmuddle]

You can do this BF. You have the knowledge and the skills to deal with it when it comes. You have us.

You can do this. Sometimes I envision in my head how I would react if he said something awful. I imagine acting calmly and use the db skills I have learned. I imagine myself calm, cool and collected, a woman of grace. Then when I usually imagine him saying the worst things...it doesn't happen. Most likely because he felt the calmness. Create a safe place for you and him to talk.

Often times when I don't know what to say, I say nothing, but show him that I am really listening by stopping whatever I am doing and looking at his face. I still say nothing.

I may have a million thoughts racing around in my head, but I don't let on. It works, he speaks more than he ever has...(which is still not much, lol)

You can do this.