Thx Spin smile And yes, A.S, she was a Bball player in college and then coached collegiate as well. It's been a long time coming for this surgery.

JOURNAL:

Day one in the hospital coming to an end. The in-laws visited briefly. They are just too old to stay very long so they are back at our house. W is loopy, lovey-dovey, emotional. I know all her efforts and mental energy are focused on her recovery through a foggy, pain medication haze. And I am here for her.

Both of our phones constantly go off with love and support from friends and family. Wonderful. W asks me to read her the text messages from her phone and then tells me what to type back to her family and friends. But xAP has been reactivated thanks to my W's call to her the other day. She found a way to circumvent the "do not contact us, I just wanted to tell you about the surgery" conversation my W says she had with her. (what else did my W expect to happen? AAAggghhhhh!!!!)

Earlier today W got two texts on her phone from numbers she did not know and weren't in her phone. I read them to her and replied her thanks as she instructed me too... the texts, (we found out by asking them who they were in the reply)... were from the xAP's best friend and the xAP's own mother.

Yeah. xAP got a call from W telling her about surgery... xAP connection activated. Backhands my sanity by giving my W's cell number to her friend and mother to have them "contact" her instead.

And me?... Oh, I'm stuck in a rock and a hard place. Need to re-enforce my boundaries and protect myself from W's backslide and xAP's disrespect but my W is knocked out on pain meds with both of her knees sawed off and reattached and my late-seventysomething inlaws are visiting from out of state.

So I ask the Oracle, How the h*ll do I DB my way out of this one? (on 4 hours sleep)


Me(F):40 WAW:44
T:13yrs M:9yrs
BD:2/12 (I saw a text)
ILYBINILWY: 5/12
PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11)
S:2/13
Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13
W moves home to R: 10/13