Dude I can only imagine how much pain you are still in. The fact that you still give a rats as* about how she might feel if you respond....tells me...that you are, in many ways still "standing", and that is totally okay. Fu*k I applaud you for it.
Honestly, I'm not sure what I'm doing. I stood for a long while and still have not given up 100%, but it seems a little pointless to stand for someone who wasted no time getting remarried.
Quote:
Are you standing still though? Are you stuck ...waiting for her to throw you a bone?
Maybe a little of all three.....
Quote:
Let me ask you a question.....Would you want to date yourself right now?
Simple question, but a very good one. I guess the answer would be: absolutely not. I have nothing to offer anyone right now. I'm driving a cab for a living and barely scraping by. I'm in a small two bedroom apartment with four grown sons. The place is a mess mostly because of all of our crazy work schedules and because we are just so frickin crowded. Honestly though, I really don't want to date right now. Not sure if it is fear or....
XW made comment to S21 the other day:
"I hope my grandchildren grow up with both of their grandparents living in the same state."
Whatever the Hell is that supposed to mean? Guess she should have thought things through more before going into her little crisis.
Anyways, I don't have much contact with her at all. She has pretty much erased me from her life/past.
My mom continues to hang on....
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13