on the edge pt 2

[dingo]

So you get beaten down, you're operating on emotion, emotions come and go. Tomorrow you get up and start over again.

When you don't react based on the emotion of the moment, you are truly in control.

You jumped on the the roller coaster the minute she walked in and hugged and kissed you. What would you differently now?

You set the boundary and the boundary is to protect you, not punish W. What is your boundary?

I did jump right back on. The next time I will not hug or kiss or better yet, not even see her. I have not spoken with her all day so there's one day under my belt.

My boundary is limited/no contact until OM is out of the picture - our of her head as well as out of her life. No contact until she is ready to commit wholeheartedly to the marriage. In the meantime, I will use the space to get her out of my head.

She said she needs to remove herself from the situation to get some clarity on it. I will try again to honor that request and let her do with the time what she needs to . In the meantime, I get my head right so I can resist the urges to act on emotion. Reset the clock and start again.