W found out an old girlfriend on my Facebook from high school that I dated was separated. The XG is very pretty, makes good money, has a cute little boy, and she makes funny comments on my FB statuses some times. I think I probably haven't talked to her in 7-8 years, and haven't seen her in probably 15. But, I really didn't care so I unfriended her from my phone to make W happy. Or so I thought.
Yesterday, W found out she was still my friend (because my phone app stinks) and lost it. Told me I was keeping a "honey" on the side, and I had lied to her, etc. I told her it was ridiculous, and unfriended her from my PC right in front of W. I hadn't even thought about it since then. Anyway, I left kind of frustrated. I mean, I'm not the one who had the A!!! But the next morning, I bought her a dozen roses and surprised her at her work (I'd never been before). I walked in and she was walking down the hall, and just stopped in her tracks with her mouth open. Then I took her to lunch, and she apologized for overreacting, and said she was just jealous. In the past, I would've scoffed and gone on about my business, and it would have been yet another wedge, but I'm trying to change that dynamic. W told me when I left, "This makes me feel loved."
As far as the current situation, my biggest problem right now is struggling with my two kids; they were badly hurt by W's actions, and do not want us to get back together at all. I think they WANT things to be good, but fear W will go back to being the evil step-mother. She was pretty bad too, but I believe things are different in her.
