I just find it very hard to not have expectations. While we are married, i still expect her to act like it. I still expect that she shouldn't cheat.
Dingo,
I think we all feel this way. In any healthy relationship this would be standard. We come together with another person believing that they have our best interests at heart, as we have theirs. Don't feel bad for your belief in what a healthy relationship is or should be.
However, this is no longer a healthy relationship, and at that point we can no longer have expectations. They no longer care about our interests. Everything is about them. You are no longer important.
I know this hurts. Especially when they tell you.. "I don't care if I hurt you, I don't CARE ABOUT YOU ANYMORE" like my w said to me. It's heartbreaking.
Be Important to yourself. Believe that you are important to others, as you so obviously are. Look at these people here, they are all here to help you.
