on the edge pt 2

[dingo]

Thanks for the words of wisdom 3bm. I do tell myself that the boundary is for me. I do tell myself that I can detach whether I am married or divorced and that I might as well do it while I am still married in the event that she changes her tune. I just find it very hard to not have expectations. While we are married, i still expect her to act like it. I still expect that she shouldn't cheat. If we are divorced, I guess she is free to do whatever she wants. I know that this is wrong on so many levels but thats whats going through my head today.

I should re-read my post a page or so back about making rash decisions that I have later regretted. You are absolutely right that I am trying to punish/force consequences and everytime I have done that, its backfired.