Hi Dingo - I am sorry to hear that the past two days were hard. I think that your W say your good changes and the fact that you were letting go and panicked. Your W is confused and does not want you to move on before she decides what the heck she wants. My H is doing the exact same things. He told me point blank that he sees me moving on and letting go and he is not ready for that to happen. My H wants me to be there when he needs me, but of course it does not run both ways.
Although it is almost impossible to get pulled back in, really try and resist. If she says that she misses you and she cares or is scared, just validate and say that you know that it must be hard. But don't push or ask questions. You want to look strong and happy no matter whether she is happy or sad or confused. I feel like each interaction or backslide I may have, the stronger I am after the fact. Just learn from this past few days, keep letting go and things will get better. Let her ride the roller coaster alone.
