You don't seem to be living as a separated person, you are still emotionally attached to your wife. You're looking to interpret all your interactions as positive or negative and reading meaning into them.

You CAN change the locks, you just go to the hardware store and do it. If she wants to raise a complaint with the authorities, let her do it.

You are constructing your own prison with your rationalizing about what you can't do.

Acc

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015